Leah Wilson

A conversation with Leah Wilson

• What led you to choose psychotherapy or counselling as a profession?

  I was drawn to psychotherapy and counselling by a deep desire to help individuals navigate the complexities of their inner world. My journey into this profession was fueled by a commitment to mental health and personal development and a passion for guiding others towards greater self-awareness, balance, and well-being.
  
  Having built my business focusing on honouring my mother's legacy, who passed away five years ago, I wanted to create a space where people feel seen, heard, and supported in their journeys. I am a PACFA registered counsellor, and my ICF ACC Coach background allows me to combine evidence-based approaches with a personalised, compassionate touch. I have always been inspired by the transformative power of psychotherapy, particularly in how it can help people connect with their true selves and foster meaningful change in their lives.
  
  My work is grounded in various therapeutic modalities, including Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Gottman theory, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). These approaches resonate with my belief in the importance of the ego and soul work and the value of cultivating mindfulness and self-compassion. Through Stabilise, I aim to create a supportive environment where clients can explore their inner worlds, overcome challenges, and ultimately lead more fulfilling lives.

• Which philosophical approaches have influenced your professional development?

  Several philosophical approaches have profoundly influenced my professional development. These approaches align with my belief in the holistic nature of human experience and the importance of self-awareness in personal growth.
  
  One of the primary influences is the work of Carl Rogers, particularly his Person-Centered Therapy. Rogers’ emphasis on empathy, unconditional positive regard, and the belief that individuals have an innate capacity for self-healing resonates deeply with my practice. This approach underlines the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental space where clients can freely explore their thoughts and emotions, which is a cornerstone of the work at Stabilise Coaching and Counselling Services.
  
  Eckhart Tolle's teachings on mindfulness and the present moment have also significantly shaped my approach. Tolle’s philosophy encourages living in the now, which I find essential for helping clients detach from past traumas and future anxieties. By integrating mindfulness into therapy, I guide clients towards a deeper understanding of themselves, helping them find peace and clarity in the present moment..
  
  Additionally, Brené Brown’s work on vulnerability and shame has been instrumental in how I approach issues of self-worth and connection with clients. Brown’s research emphasises the power of vulnerability in fostering genuine human connection, which I see as vital in the therapeutic relationship.
  
  Finally, the insights of Gabor Maté on trauma and addiction have influenced my understanding of how past experiences shape present behaviours. Maté’s compassionate inquiry into the root causes of pain informs my approach to helping clients heal from deep-seated wounds.
  
  These philosophical approaches collectively guide my practice, ensuring that I offer clients a comprehensive and empathetic path toward healing and personal development.

• Which particular aspects of health or the human journey are you interested in?

  I'm particularly interested in the intricate interplay between mental health, emotional resilience, and the human journey toward self-discovery and fulfilment. My work at Stabilise Coaching and Counselling Services is deeply rooted in understanding how our experiences, both past and present, shape our inner world and influence our overall well-being.
  
  One aspect of health that I’m incredibly passionate about is the mind-body connection. I believe that mental and emotional health cannot be separated from physical well-being, and I often explore how stress, trauma, and unprocessed emotions manifest in the body. This holistic approach allows me to help clients reconnect with their bodies, fostering greater awareness and healing on all levels.
  
  I’m also deeply invested in the journey of personal growth and self-awareness. I find it incredibly rewarding to guide clients through the process of exploring their inner worlds, identifying patterns, and cultivating self-compassion. This journey often involves helping clients navigate challenges such as anxiety, depression, and relationship issues while also empowering them to discover their true selves and live authentically.
  
  Another critical area of interest for me is the exploration of ego and soul work. I’m fascinated by how individuals can transcend the limitations of the ego to connect with a deeper sense of purpose and meaning. This aspect of the human journey is crucial in helping clients find inner peace and fulfilment, especially when they feel stuck or disconnected.
  
  Ultimately, I’m passionate about supporting individuals through the ups and downs of their human journey, helping them to build resilience, embrace vulnerability, and move towards a more balanced and meaningful life.

• What methods do you use?

  I employ a range of evidence-based methods tailored to meet each client's unique needs. My approach is integrative, drawing on various therapeutic modalities to create a comprehensive and personalized experience.
  
  One of the primary methods I use is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). ACT helps clients develop psychological flexibility by encouraging them to accept their thoughts and feelings rather than fighting or avoiding them. This approach is particularly effective in helping individuals build resilience, cope with stress, and align their actions with their core values.
  
  I also incorporate Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is highly effective for addressing issues such as anxiety, depression, and negative thinking patterns. CBT focuses on identifying and challenging unhelpful thoughts and behaviours, allowing clients to develop healthier ways of thinking and acting.
  
  Gottman Method Couples Therapy is another key component of my practice, especially when working with couples. This method is grounded in decades of research on relationship dynamics and focuses on improving communication, increasing emotional connection, and resolving conflict. It’s a powerful tool for helping couples strengthen their relationships and build lasting intimacy.
  
  In addition, I draw on Person-Centered Therapy inspired by Carl Rogers. This approach emphasizes empathy, unconditional positive regard, and the therapeutic alliance. It is foundational to my work, as it creates a safe and nonjudgmental space where clients can explore their thoughts and feelings openly.
  
  Mindfulness practices are also integral to my work, influenced by Eckhart Tolle's teachings. I often guide clients in developing mindfulness skills to help them stay present, manage stress, and cultivate a deeper sense of peace and self-awareness.
  
  Finally, I incorporate Gestalt Therapy and Positive Psychology elements to encourage clients to fully experience the present moment and focus on their strengths and potential. These methods support clients in achieving personal growth and enhancing their overall well-being.
  
  By combining these methods, I can offer a holistic and adaptive approach that addresses my clients' diverse and complex needs, helping them navigate their unique journeys toward healing and fulfilment.

• When do you think the client will start to feel that progress is being made?

  The experience of progress in therapy is deeply individual and can vary depending on the client’s unique circumstances, goals, and commitment to the process. However, there are some common indicators that often signal when a client begins to feel that progress is being made.
  
  Typically, clients start to notice progress when they begin to feel more self-aware and connected to their thoughts and emotions. This often occurs after they’ve engaged with the therapeutic process for a few sessions, allowing time to build a trusting relationship and explore the issues at hand. When clients start recognizing patterns in their behaviour and thought processes and feel more equipped to manage challenges using the tools and strategies we’ve discussed, they often report a sense of movement and improvement.
  
  For some, progress is felt when they begin to experience relief from symptoms such as anxiety, depression, or relationship conflict. This might happen as they learn new coping strategies or when they start implementing small, manageable changes in their daily lives that lead to noticeable differences in how they feel and interact with others.
  
  Clients may also feel a sense of progress when they start to achieve the goals they set at the beginning of therapy, whether that’s improved communication in relationships, greater emotional regulation, or enhanced self-esteem. These tangible achievements can provide a strong sense of accomplishment and validation that the work they’re doing in therapy is making a real impact.
  
  It’s important to remember that progress is not always linear, and there may be ups and downs along the way. However, as clients continue to engage with the therapeutic process, they typically find that their capacity for self-compassion, resilience, and personal growth increases, leading to a deeper and more sustained sense of progress over time.

• How has therapy made a difference in your life?

  Therapy has made a profound difference in my life, both personally and professionally. On a personal level, engaging in therapy has allowed me to cultivate a deeper understanding of myself, my emotions, and the patterns that have shaped my experiences. It has given me the tools to navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and self-compassion, helping me to grow into a more grounded and authentic version of myself.
  
  Through therapy, I have learned the importance of being present, embracing vulnerability, and understanding that healing is an ongoing journey. These insights have not only enhanced my own well-being but have also deepened my empathy and connection with others. Therapy has shown me the value of self-reflection and the power of exploring my inner world, which has enriched my relationships and overall quality of life.
  
  Professionally, therapy has provided me with invaluable insights that inform my work as a counsellor and coach. It has reinforced my belief in the transformative power of a safe and supportive therapeutic relationship, where clients can explore their thoughts and feelings without judgment. My own experiences in therapy have shaped the way I approach my clients, allowing me to offer a space of understanding, empathy, and hope.
  
  Therapy has also fueled my passion for helping others. It has solidified my commitment to guiding clients on their own journeys of self-discovery, healing, and personal growth. The positive changes I’ve experienced in my own life through therapy inspire me every day to support others in achieving the same sense of empowerment and fulfilment.
  
  In essence, therapy has been a cornerstone in my journey towards a more meaningful and balanced life, and it continues to influence and enrich the work I do with my clients at Stabilise Coaching and Counselling Services.

• What do you like most about being a therapist?

  What I like most about being a therapist is the privilege of witnessing and supporting people through their most transformative moments. There’s something profoundly rewarding about creating a safe and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their deepest thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Seeing clients grow, heal, and discover new insights about themselves is incredibly fulfilling.
  
  I love the connection that forms in the therapeutic relationship. Each client brings a unique story and perspective, and I am continually inspired by their courage and resilience. Being able to walk alongside someone as they navigate their challenges, helping them uncover their strengths, and witnessing their progress is what makes this work so meaningful to me.
  
  I also appreciate the continuous learning that comes with being a therapist. Every session, every client teaches me something new—whether it's about human behaviour, emotions, or the different ways people cope with life’s difficulties. This constant evolution keeps me engaged and passionate about my work.
  
  Most importantly, I cherish the opportunity to make a positive impact on people’s lives. Knowing that I can help someone feel heard, understood, and supported during their most difficult times is a profoundly humbling and motivating aspect of being a therapist. It’s this ability to facilitate healing and growth that makes being a therapist such a fulfilling and meaningful profession for me.

• Do you ever have 'bad hair' days?

  Yes, just like anyone else, I definitely have my share of 'bad hair' days! These are the days when things don’t go as planned, or I’m feeling a bit off or out of sync. I believe it's important to acknowledge that even as a therapist, I’m human, and I experience challenges and frustrations just like everyone else.
  
  On those days, I try to practice the same self-compassion and mindfulness that I encourage in my clients. Whether it’s taking a moment to breathe, stepping outside for some fresh air, or simply reminding myself that it’s okay not to be perfect, these small acts help me reset and approach the day with a bit more ease.
  
  In a way, 'bad hair' days remind me that life is full of ups and downs, and that’s perfectly normal. They also give me the opportunity to practice what I preach by being kind to myself and not letting the small things derail my sense of balance. Sometimes, those days can lead to moments of growth and reflection, which ultimately helps me connect more authentically with my clients.

• What do you think is the most significant problem we face, in the world today?

  One of the most significant problems we face in the world today is the pervasive sense of disconnection—disconnection from ourselves, from others, and from the natural world. This disconnection manifests in many ways, including the rising rates of mental health issues, the fragmentation of communities, and the environmental crises we are witnessing.
  
  On a personal level, many people struggle with a disconnection from their own emotions, values, and sense of purpose. This can lead to feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and a lack of fulfilment as people find it increasingly difficult to navigate the complexities of modern life. The pressure to constantly achieve, coupled with the overwhelming presence of technology, can further distance individuals from their true selves and from meaningful, face-to-face connections with others.
  
  Socially, this disconnection is reflected in the polarization and division we see in many societies. The lack of empathy, understanding, and open dialogue between different groups often exacerbates conflicts and prevents us from finding common ground. This division is fueled by various factors, including economic inequality, cultural differences, and the echo chambers created by social media, which can reinforce biases and deepen divides.
  
  Our disconnection from the natural world has also led to environmental degradation and a lack of sustainable practices. The consequences of this are dire, as we see the impact of climate change, loss of biodiversity, and the depletion of natural resources. This disconnection from nature not only threatens the health of our planet but also affects our own well-being, as we lose touch with the sense of peace and balance that comes from being in harmony with the environment.
  
  Addressing this widespread disconnection requires a concerted effort to foster greater self-awareness, empathy, and a deeper understanding of our interconnectedness with each other and the world around us. It calls for a shift in our values, where we prioritize relationships, community, and environmental stewardship over material success and individualism. By reconnecting with ourselves, others, and the natural world, we can address many underlying issues that contribute to the challenges we face today.

• Can you share the name of a book, film, song, event or work of art that inspires you?

  One work that inspires me deeply is the book "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. This book has had a profound impact on how I understand and approach both life and therapy. Tolle’s speech about the importance of living in the present moment and the transformative power of mindfulness resonates with me on many levels.
  
  "The Power of Now" encourages readers to step out of the constant stream of thoughts that often dominate our minds and to connect with the present moment. This message is relevant to personal well-being and forms the foundation of much of my work with clients. The idea that true peace and fulfilment come from being fully present rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future is a guiding principle in my life and practice.
  
  This book inspires me because it offers a simple yet profound approach to living that can lead to greater clarity, peace, and connection. It reminds me to slow down, be more mindful in my daily interactions, and help others find that same sense of presence and peace in their lives.