I Recently Married For The Second Time.

Question: I recently married for the second time. This partnership is much more compatible than my previous marriage in that we are quite suited. We have similar interests and temperament, and all things considered, I can think of no reason to be feeling anything but happy. Recently however, I have become more and more restless, bored even. I don't understand what this is about. Maybe I rushed into this new relationship? Gavin

Answer (1) There is certainly something going on beneath the surface here that really needs to be thoroughly investigated for everyone's sake. You realise that your present feelings are not in keeping with your present circumstances. This could mean that there is something within the relationship that is being denied and needs to be rectified, or more likely, there is something unrecognised within yourself that is preventing you from enjoying your marriage. I strongly suggest you see a therapist as soon as possible to explore what's happening, before you jeopardise your future with your new partner.

Answer provided by David White

Answer (2) I'd say you would benefit from talking with a therapist who can facilitate and deepen the way you perceive and experience yourself in relation to your new partner. Someone who can assist you in lookng at how and why you process this relationship the way you do. You may come away with a new awareness of your core patterns and the ways in which you make "contact" with the "other". I am curious about your statement, "I rushed into this new relationship". Is this a pattern that you need to explore?

Answer provided by Brian Whiter